The Independent Woman

Why is it that we as woman think we need men in our lives to make us into something that we can easily become on our own? Now before you get all upset and complain that that isn’t true. Think about it. We always make a big deal out of nothing. When a man says he is going to call us in a little while and that little while turns into a few hours or so, we start thinking about the possibility that he’s either losing interest or out hanging around other women or whatever. And no matter how much we claim or say that we don’t need a man in our lives and that we can be independent, the truth is we can’t. Every time a man does something that is not to our liking. We over analyze the situation. We always come up with the worst answers to the problem when in reality, that wasn’t always the case. When we rid of one relationship with a man we say that we’re going to take some time to just be by ourselves and focus on what we want, and that we don’t need a man right now. But after all that being said why is it that the majority of us have to jump right back into a relationship and totally forget about taking the time that we claimed we needed. As soon as another good man comes along we jump at the opportunity because we are afraid that there are not many good guys left and that we have to get them while we can. I know I can’t speak for all women, because this is not the case for us all, but there are many out there that struggle with the whole I need a man thing. It is hard for us to go on and live our day to day lives without taking just a few moments to think about or daydream of having a guy to walk us to our car, or pull out our chair, or even tell us that he loves us. Everyone wants those things, but it’s okay to be that independent woman that we here about in all those songs. And read about in the magazines or wherever. Sometimes it would be nice to just for once be able to focus completely and only on us. Imagine how much stress and questioning you could and would avoid if you didn’t have to worry about what your man was out doing, and why he hasn’t called you yet today, or even why he seems distant this weekend. Men are nice to have there for you, and once you found a good one you should hold tight to him, but you don’t have to always have a man. Don’t feel like once you get out of one relationship that you have to jump right back into another, because you don’t. You can take a year or so to get yourself back on track, and to explore and find out a little more about yourself and what you really want in a guy and in a relationship. You can take that time to do something you always wanted to do but never had time for, and you can also enjoy the perks of being single again and hanging with your girls. You are never too old to have fun and to live your lives so don’t feel like you have to meet Mr. Right between a certain age-range. Enjoy where you are in life and don’t hurry to find that special guy or feel like they’re all being taken away because one day when you least expect it Mr. Right is going to come walking around the corner and sweep you off your feet, and if you had rushed from one relationship to another than you might have missed that wonderful chance meeting, so why don’t we women just focus on being miss independent, and let the chips fall where they may, and let fate have its way with us.

"different" is not always a bad thing...

They say everything happens for a reason right? Well why is it that some of the things we go through in life seem like such a waste of our time and by the end they all appear to be very pathetic? This whole second series of my life has put me through some serious ups and downs. I’ve basically almost been through it all. You couldn’t imagine. I have felt things and been through things that no teenage girl should have to go through, but crazy enough I’m thankful for it all. Even though there were many times when I wanted to just die or move a million miles away, I’m actually glad that I was able to go through each of those scenarios. They taught me things believe it or not. Sometimes they can all just seem like minor setbacks, which in reality they are, but if we didn’t have those setbacks then we wouldn’t be able to move forward. I have had a lot of people let me down throughout my eighteen years of life but in the end I always seem to come out on top, and on my caller id are the people that matter the most to me and never let me down no matter how much we’ve gone through. When you find people like that in your life, you need to make sure that you always keep them first. You need to hold on tight to them because you never know what life is going to throw at you, and you’re going to need someone there to listen who knows you, and knows your past. I feel very liberated these days. I’m in such a great place in my life. There are so many new things in the works for me. I am trying to not let myself fall back into habit, meaning; I want to be different. I like how I feel and how I think these days. Of course we are always going to have problems and little situations that make you want to just slump over and sleep the next few weeks, but over these past few days I’ve learned different ways of handling those situations. I no longer use the same old tactics that I did before to resolve those problems. By changing how I do things, it makes me feel like I actually learned something from my past, and that I am now ready to move on…I am ready to be different.

some fashion can be timeless.

When starting a new chapter in your life it’s important to also start one in your closet. You don’t want to go through a new stage in life wearing the old you because that person has left…well to some extent. Change is a good thing and we should always be willing to accept it and embrace it. Same with shopping!!! You don’t want to break your bank and there are some items that you could possibly recycle but you also want to show off a new you…one who doesn’t buy a cute pair of bellbottoms in high school and then decides to wear them twenty years later to a dentist appointment. Keep the classics like the little black dress, things that will never go out of style. Be smart when change comes and think about all the aspects that go along with it.